For all you newly married gals out there, how many times have you been asked, "how's married life treatin ya?". Like what do people expect you to say? Seriously! I mean what are people hoping you'll say?. " Ya, married life is absolute shit! Don't do it! Save yourself the time, money, family agro and just give it a miss." Or, " I fucking hate it, and him! It's just a title, wish I didn't go through with it. Should have taken a page out of the "Run Away Bride and literally ran away!" So, when people ask me, "how's married life treatin ya?", my answer is always, " I don't feel it's any different." And I truly don't.
The only thing that is different, is that now I have another person to share my life with. I know that sounds mushy, and for the most part it is. I was never the little girl that thought I was a princess waiting for my prince charming. But I did however, as I got older, think about my actual wedding day and what I would want. From the colors to the setting. And the setting is pretty much all I kept in terms of my preconceived wedding day ideas. Now I have a wonderful man that treats me right, who doesn't disrespect me and wants the best for me always. A man that agrees that communication is the key to us having a successful long lasting healthy friendship and marriage. As well as hundreds of other reasons of course! :)
Married life to me may mean more, because I'm a bit older than what I, even assumed I would be when getting married. I lived with my husband before we got married as well and maybe that also has something to do with it. Although, for me, I felt that I was just ready. I had come out of a really shitty situation, ( I won't call it a relationship, because it wasn't that important), when I met my husband. So as the old story goes, it will happen when you least expect it to. And I have to say, that I agree with the "idea" behind that saying, but I feel very differently towards the premise of it. I feel like when we are in touch with ourselves, our wants, and needs, but most importantly, what we DESERVE...then we are ready to be OPEN to meeting the right person. I feel like saying to someone, " it will happen when you least expect it", is a cop out. The saying takes all the effort you need to be doing within yourself out of the equation, and puts a lot of unnecessary pressure into it. And sometimes that pressure is directed at the other person/potential partner.
Married life isn't something to take lightly. Or at least I don't think so. I hold myself to a very high standard in terms of being a wife, but also and more importantly, being a strong independent thinking woman. So that when I'm asked, "how's married life treatin ya?", I can answer with..."It's amazing! I was ready and open to meet the right man. I took the time I needed to be completely good with ME, before I entered into a relationship with my husband. And in turn it has allowed me to be a better friend and partner." And hey look peeps, I'm not saying it's always easy, but I can say, that I have never been happier. Truly! So married life is treating me pretty damn good I'd say!